Gaslighting Phrase Detector
Analyze text for gaslighting phrases and manipulation tactics with AI-powered detection
You're questioning your own reality right now. You're replaying a conversation over and over, wondering if you misunderstood. You're Googling 'am I crazy' for the hundredth time because someone convinced you that your completely reasonable reaction was an overreaction. Gaslighting makes you distrust your own mind. That's exactly what it's designed to do. This detector analyzes conversations and situations to help you identify gaslighting tactics in real-time. It recognizes the specific phrases abusers use: denial of events you know happened, trivializing your feelings, countering your memories, telling you you're 'too sensitive.' You're not crazy. You're not overreacting. Your reality is valid. Paste in the text message, describe the conversation, or outline the situation making you question yourself. Get immediate, objective analysis of whether you're experiencing gaslighting—and what specific manipulation tactics are being used. Trust yourself. You came here for a reason. Your instincts brought you to this page because some part of you knows something is deeply wrong. If you're in immediate danger: 1-800-799-7233
What is Gaslighting?
Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation where a person makes you question your own reality, memory, or perceptions. It's a common tactic used by narcissists and abusers to gain control and make you dependent on their version of reality.
You can paste conversations, messages, emails, or any text you want to analyze for gaslighting.
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Common Gaslighting Techniques We Detect
Common Gaslighting Examples
Recognizing these patterns is the first step toward protecting yourself. Here are phrases you might hear and why they are harmful.
"I only did it because I love you so much."
Uses declarations of love to justify controlling or harmful behavior, making you feel guilty for objecting to mistreatment.
"You're the one who made me do this."
Transfers responsibility for their harmful actions onto you, making you feel accountable for their choices.
"You're crazy — no one else has a problem with me."
Weaponizes social consensus to isolate you and make you doubt your own valid perceptions and experiences.
"After everything I've done for you, this is how you treat me?"
Reverses the roles of victim and offender, reframing legitimate concerns as personal attacks against them.
Frequently Asked Questions
Common questions about the gaslighting phrase detector tool.
How does the gaslighting phrase detector work?
Paste any text into the detector and AI analyzes it for 10 gaslighting techniques. It returns matches with the tactic category, an explanation of why the phrase is manipulative, and a healthy alternative. The tool also scores overall manipulation risk as a percentage.
What types of gaslighting does this tool detect?
The detector identifies reality denial, DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender), memory manipulation, minimizing, projection, trivializing, countering, withholding, blocking/diverting, and forgetting/denial.
Can I use this tool to analyze text messages from my partner?
Yes, you can paste any text including text messages, emails, or conversation transcripts. The tool does not store your data. The manipulation score helps quantify what you may have been feeling intuitively.
What is a manipulation score and how is it calculated?
The manipulation score is a percentage based on the number of detected gaslighting phrases versus total sentences in the text. Green (under 30%) indicates low risk, yellow (30-60%) indicates moderate risk, and red (over 60%) indicates high risk.
What should I do if the detector finds gaslighting in my conversations?
Document the patterns you've identified, trust your own reality, and set clear boundaries. Consider sharing the results with a therapist who specializes in narcissistic abuse for professional guidance and support.
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