Interactive Tools
AI-powered tools to help you identify, respond to, and recover from covert narcissistic abuse
These nine free tools walk you through the whole journey of covert narcissistic abuse — from first realizing something is wrong, to responding safely, to recovering afterward. They're AI-powered, completely free, and require no signup or account. Not sure where to begin? Start by identifying what you're dealing with, then move down the list as your situation changes.
If you're overwhelmed and don't know where to start, here's the map: Identify (still asking "is this manipulation?") — start with the self-test or gaslighting detector. Respond (you know what's happening but need to survive it) — grey rock and no-contact tools. Recover (you're out but still hooked) — the trauma bond assessment. Start where you are right now.
Identify what you're dealing with
Start here if you're still asking “is it me, or is this manipulation?” These tools help you name the persona and the tactics.
Which Sharon Are You Dealing With?
Take a 10-question quiz to identify which Sharon persona you're encountering and get tailored guidance.
Covert Narcissism Self-Test
Answer 10 questions to gauge whether you're dealing with covert narcissistic manipulation or everyday relationship friction.
Gaslighting Phrase Detector
Analyze text to identify gaslighting phrases and manipulation tactics with explanations.
Respond safely
Once you can see the pattern, these tools help you reply, set boundaries, and protect yourself without feeding the drama.
Grey Rock Response Generator
Generate safe, non-reactive responses using the Grey Rock technique for narcissistic abuse situations.
No Contact Letter Generator
Create personalized no-contact letters with appropriate tone and legal considerations.
Flying Monkey Decoder
Decode messages from people recruited by the narcissist to pressure, guilt, or gather information from you.
Recover and rebuild
When you're ready to heal, start by understanding the bond that kept you stuck — then rebuild from there.
How to Use These Tools
Identify Patterns
Use the quiz and detector tools to recognize covert narcissistic behaviors in your relationships.
Generate Responses
Create safe, effective responses and boundary-setting communications using our generators.
Assess & Recover
Evaluate your situation and get personalized recommendations for healing and recovery.
Frequently Asked Questions
Are these narcissist abuse tools free to use?
Yes — all nine tools are completely free with no account required. The Sharon Quiz, Self-Test, Gaslighting Detector, DARVO Analyzer, Grey Rock Generator, No Contact Letter Generator, Trauma Bond Assessment, Flying Monkey Decoder, and Hoovering Planner are available immediately with no sign-up, no paywall, and no data collection.
How do the AI-powered tools work?
The Grey Rock Generator, Gaslighting Detector, and No Contact Letter Generator use AI to analyze your specific situation and generate personalized responses. You provide context (a situation, text to analyze, or relationship details), and the AI produces tailored output based on established patterns of narcissistic behavior and evidence-based response strategies.
Are my responses and data stored or shared?
No — your quiz answers and assessment responses are processed entirely in your browser and are never stored on our servers. The AI tools send your input to generate responses but do not retain the data after processing. We do not sell or share any user information.
Which tool should I start with?
Start with the Sharon Quiz to identify the specific persona you're dealing with. Then use the Gaslighting Detector to analyze communications for manipulation. The Grey Rock Generator helps you craft responses, and the Trauma Bond Assessment evaluates how deeply the relationship has affected you.
Can these tools replace therapy?
No — these tools are educational resources designed to help you recognize patterns and develop initial coping strategies. They are not a substitute for professional mental health support. If you're experiencing abuse, we strongly recommend working with a therapist who specializes in narcissistic abuse or trauma.
Related Topics
Sharon Mother
The covert narcissistic parent who uses guilt and emotional manipulation to maintain control.
Nice Lady Narcissist
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Trauma Bond Assessment
15-question assessment to evaluate trauma bond strength and get recovery recommendations.
Complete Guide
Learn everything about identifying and dealing with covert narcissistic behavior.